Yesterday when we went to see Mom, open presents and sing Christmas caroles, I also went through the previous day happenings. Christmas Eve is the big day in our family. My husband and I as well as our son's and their families stopped after church and prayed with her and opened her presents. Then went to the house opened presents, sang Christmas caroles and helped played a lot of games. In telling her of all of this, as I do each day and did yesterday, she looked at me and said "I wish I could be you" This brought tears to my eyes, and a huge sadness. I knew what she meant. I wish I could do anything I wanted to, I wish I could have a complete life, I wish I didn't have Dementia!! That was all she could articulate, however.
Everyone loves the Holidays, but it can be a mixed bag. We love the family time. giving the special gifts and the wassail!! It often times brings a bit of nostalgia and reminders of Christmases past. It brings a realization that no matter how "perfect" the day is it is never the same as it once was. Dementia takes away some of our most cherished memories, traditions, and even people. The Holidays certainly brings all of this to the surface. I believe the best we can do is enjoy the good and try not dwell on those less pleasant memories. Happy Holidays to all!!
May God keep you in the palm of Her hand.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
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