I just got back from putting out Mom's Xmas Decorations. This is always a time when Mom seems to get more sentimental and also more demanding. I also become more sentimental but more sensitive. This is not a great combination. I remember one of the last Christmas Holidays I was leaving after 20-25 minutes and I usually stay an hour. She turned to me and said "if you loved me you would stay longer!" Now I know it was the "dementia talking" not Mom, but somehow I am reliving that and other moments from past holidays. I understand intellectually that I need to move forward, but this is easier said than done!
Holidays can be stressful when your loved one has Alzheimer's or another dementia and I will discuss some of the things you can do help with this stress. Today, however, I want to just begin with asking all of us to get into the right frame of mind. At Christmas, or whatever holiday you celebrate at this time of the year, you need to remember to focus on the joy and wonderful things that will occur, not expect perfection. Keep it simple and remember the love you and your special person have for each other.
More on this holiday topic soon
May god keep you in the palm of Her hand.
Sunday, November 28, 2010
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